Do you have to be a bad-a*s to be successful in life?

I notice certain traits in people that seem to propel them into success. Arnold Swarrzenegger for


example. He dont take sh*t from nobody and never has. Even when he was a kid he would


never back down from anyone and always was selfish. He would laugh at his fellow


competitors. He always was sarcastic and a wise-a*ss. He even laughed at his one time idol


Reg Parks when he beat him for the world title. He once walked into a store to buy something


and some old lady told him not to touch the glass ornament in her store cause he might break it.


He told her to “f*ck off.” He also has groped women. Lets face it--Arnold is cocky and I see


him as being a bad a*ss.


Senator McCain has a maverick personality. He dont take sh*t from nobody either and will tell


anyone to f*ck off if you make him angry. He has 5 medals from the war and it running for


President in 2008. Same with General Patton. He had traits that were bad-a*ss. These men


were very successful in life and it seems you have to kick and fight to get to the top and step on


other peoples shoes too. All three of these men have successful marriages as well.


I, on the other hand, cant keep a girl for more than a month. I go through one-night stands like


water. I dont have a high status job. I work in a hotel as concierge. I drive a regular car. Been


ripped off many times. Had two car stolens. Been suckered into a car lease. I just feel like I am


a chump! I have all this inner anger because I dont really have any success that i want so badly.


I do notice i get better results when I fight back and tell other people off--expecially women.


Women seem to respect me more. Also when I tell my employer off--I get the respect I


deserve. I feel that you have to have GREAT BIG BALLS and a BAD-A*SS ATTITUDE to


make it to the top. I want success. But does this mean I have to start taking the bull by the horns


and start swinging my fists at the world?

Do you have to be a bad-a*s to be successful in life?
Don%26#039;t over-do it. It%26#039;s about self-respect. That%26#039;s the first and most integral part of an alpha-male attitude. All of them have it, and that%26#039;s part of what made them successful.


A big part of self-respect is not caring how other people judge you and judging yourself; doing what you feel is right with your life, and screw what everyone else thinks. Who cares if you work in a hotel? Shoveling $hit is an honorable job, as long as you do it to the best of your ability. All of the people you listed would tell you the same.


Basically, screw other people%26#039;s opinions... look to please yourself with who you are and what you%26#039;re doing in life. If you succeed in that, people will notice.
Reply:No. You don%26#039;t have to be so aggressive to be successful...


It seems that you%26#039;re cherry-picking your examples...


I guess it is more important that you decide what is success...


To me success is persisting until your goals are accomplished...that doesn%26#039;t require someone else%26#039;s defeat or failure...
Reply:Don%26#039;t have to be a jerk, which is basically you%26#039;re describing- but it helps if you%26#039;re ballsy.





It%26#039;s not a matter of being selfish and loud and a motormouthed jerk- McCain is a maverick, but he%26#039;s also not a complete boor. (And I say this as someone who leans strongly to the left, thank you.) It%26#039;s a matter of being firm, having confidence, and being able to stand up for yourself.





And no-one automatically deserves respect- but when you assert yourself (telling them off, as you put it), you%26#039;re positioning and showing others that you%26#039;re at, the very least, their equal. Being an out and out utter bastard only works in the short term. But standing your ground and pushing yourself towards the top- not expecting others to propel you- and setting aside sulleness when you don%26#039;t get what you want right away works wonders, both for the image you project to others and the one only you see.



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